Today, I’m writing from good ol’ Sacramento. I’m here visiting my sister, and I must say the change of scenery has been very nice.
While here, however, I’ve been suffering from little bouts of anxiety. My wedding is just under two months away and I’m completely overwhelmed with all the unanswered questions and nagging things to do. I’ll admit: I’m an anti-bride. I haven’t been planning this thing since I was six. And really, if I hadn’t found the best guy in the world, marriage wouldn’t even be close to on my mind.
But here I am. Sighing at text messages asking me to decide between navy and royal blue. Rolling my eyes with each new person who asks for a wedding invite. And yawning through the flower market.
I am a terrible person.
So last night while discussing all that’s left to do with a bridesmaid, I finally just admitted that wedding planning is not where my mind or heart is. To my surprise, she already knew! Apparently, my negative attitude has been quite the drag. And now, instead of just one person being down, I suddenly had two.
Which brings me to the topic of energy. Finding harmony between negative feelings and positive behavior is a constant struggle. Personally, when I feel poorly about certain things or people, my attitude will often get the best of me, which is really bad. But, being happy isn’t always easy. And this is especially true when we don’t deal with our feelings accordingly.
When we refuse to fully acknowledge our feelings, positive or negative, we eliminate our opportunity to determine appropriate actions. This isn’t about denial. It’s the basic law of attraction. What you focus on is what you’ll get. If you never reconcile your negative thoughts, the feelings will inevitably emanate from you–and, perhaps worse, continue to bring you and others down.
Unfortunately, the solution for combatting negativity isn’t clear cut. You just have to force yourself and be deliberate in it. If that means making a change, then go for it! If that means meditating, then do it! Just don’t allow negativity to consume and control you–and always believe that your happiness is worth the effort.
So, about this wedding, I’ve decided to take my own advice. No one ever said I had to plan it alone–let alone, plan it at all. I just want to enjoy the day and be excited. So if getting extra help is what it takes, then I’m all for it. And I’m sure the people around me will enjoy the shift in energy.
Can we all agree that being happy and positive is far more fun that the alternative? Great! Then how do you deal with your negative feelings? What kind of energy is surrounding you? Let me know in the comments below!